‘Oh a girl baby. I am so happy and let’s start to save gold for her marriage from now itself’.
In this era of science, technology, inventions, research, few things still never change such as a girl baby and the terms and conditions that comes along with it.
Only very few parents come out of the social sigma and raise a girl child in a different way. But when the child attains a particular age (21-25) the peer pressure for the parents increases and they end up taking some hasty decisions. That’s when the big OR comes in a girl’s life.
- Get marry OR relatives will think there is some problem with you
- Learn to cook OR else you will suffer in your in-laws house
- Resign your job OR you can’t take care of your baby
And the list goes on…..
As I mentioned earlier, there are certain terms and conditions and if a girl doesn’t follow it, SHE IS BAD.
Now, I wanna delete that big OR and insert an AND. Yes I am a girl, I am not bound by any rules and below are the things that defines me
I am a girl AND I am independent – No it does not mean that I don’t want a male company at all. If I am carry a heavy bag and some guy offers to help me, I will surely let him. He is physically stronger than me you see. But I am independent enough to travel alone, rent a house, eat alone in a restaurant, to take a job in a different state etc. I am not dependent on a male (dad, uncle, friend) for everything.
I am a girl AND I don’t like gold – Or even diamond. There is a generalization that girls are fond of gold, that you can woo them by buying gold. No. There are many girls who don’t give a damn about gold. Also, stop buying gold jewels for your girl child. Instead, invest that money in her education. Send her to places where she can learn many things.
I am a girl AND sometimes I don’t keep bindi – It is a personal choice. Sometimes I keep bindi and sometimes I don’t. It all depends on my mood. Well, is it against our culture? In our olden days, even men used to have big tilaks and why I am not seeing any men like that now?
I am a girl AND I talk loud and laugh – If a joke is funny, let me laugh out loud please. Just because I am girl, I can’t go hush hush while talking and laughing. Get rid of the image of that stereotype heroine who does everything gentle in a slow motion from your mind.
I am a girl AND I cook and do household chores – It is not because I am girl. I like my place to be clean and I prefer home cooked food. Eating food and having a place to live are the basics of survival and everyone should know how to do it.
I am a girl AND I have second thoughts about marriage and having babies- I have a beautiful family and I know the value of relationships. But it is okay to put me first. If marriage could be a hindrance for my life goals, I have all the rights to not to get marry. Even if I get marry, I have all the rights to decide not to have a baby. After all, it is my life and I have only one of it.
I am a girl AND I look at guys – Directly. Guys are cute, handsome, hot. What is wrong in admiring the beauty?!
I am a girl AND I like Joey and Barney – Yha they are flirts. But, I like the confidence of their characters, how they never hesitate to try and how they are funny. What is the big deal?
I am a girl AND I like porn – Naahh… kidding (may be not 😛 ) I am a girl AND so am I. There are no terms and conditions or rules and regulations. I just want to be myself.
Yes girls…. Use your AND, and Be Yourself!!